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Knight of Cups – Kathleen Gorham

Posted on by Heather Blakey

When the Knight of Cups appears in a Tarot spread it can mean that this person is romantic, idealistic, and often on a quest for emotional or artistic fulfilment. They are seen as the quintessential romantic figure in tarot, often associated with chivalry, charm, and the pursuit of the heart’s desires. The Knight of Cups person is typically driven by a deep longing for emotional depth and meaningful connections.

Kathleen Gorham was born in the New South Wales Riverina town of Narrandera on 7 September 1928.
Gorham made her first public appearance as Tiger Lily and a member of the ballet in Peter Pan at the Minerva Theatre at Christmas 1945.
A protégé of Leon Kellaway, she moved to Melbourne in 1946 to study under Madame Borovansky.

Kathleen Gorham was first and foremost a performer, from the flash of those great dark eyes to the tips of her long raven tresses,’ recalled William Akers, who was Borovansky’s stage director, and the Australian Ballet’s first production director. ‘Dramatic, capricious, temperamental and brilliant, she was always the entertainer, the public’s darling.

Gorham grew up in humble circumstances in the western suburbs of Sydney. Somehow her mother scraped up enough money to allow her to train with Lorraine Norton and Frances Scully. With other Scully students, Gorham made her first public appearance as Tiger Lily and a member of the ballet in Peter Panat the Minerva Theatre at Christmas 1945. A protégé of Leon Kellaway, she moved to Melbourne in 1946 to study under Madame Borovansky. Her travel was financed by fellow members of Uncle Tom’s Gang, a children’s radio show. She made her Borovansky Ballet debut in May 1946 as a Circassian lad in Schéhérazade.

in 1962 Kathleen Gorham became prima ballerina of the newly formed Australian Ballet Company. She played an important role in the artistic development of a recognisably Australian ballet company and danced new roles in association with Robert Helpmann. She was appointed Officer of the Order of the British Empire in 1968 for her services to ballet. Retiring from dancing after the Australian Ballet’s first overseas tour in 1966, she taught ballet in Melbourne and Southport, Queensland before her death in 1983 at a relatively young age.

Working with the Knight of Cups

The Knight of Cups is all about passion and emotion and how the two work together. It is the fire of the element of water, the bravery, and the confidence of being able to lay yourself open to the world and accept whatever may come your way. The Knight of Cups is about owning your vulnerability and not being afraid of it.

In the upright position, the Knight of Cups symbolises our hopes, desires, and deep motivations.

The Knight of Cups takes their journey very seriously indeed. It may even be all they do, as they are consumed by this experience of following their heart and soul. Kathleen Gorham began dancing at the age of seven but after an accident had to start over a year later. The commitment was clearly there!

What passion drives you? Test run this guided imagery to help design your dream life.

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How Would You Waltz With A Matilda?

Posted on by Heather Blakey

As the host of this interactive site I am endeavouring to redress the Matilda Effect by waltzing with Australian women, identifying Tarot cards that help tell their stories. However, there is no set way to Waltz with a Matilda. The main object is to redress the Matilda Effect and bring the achievements of diverse women out of the shadows.

 Christina Macpherson’s story is just one example of the Matilda Effect as it applies in a more general sense. Her contribution to the iconic Australian ballad, Waltzing Matilda, was relegated to the shadows. It was Banjo Patterson who got to be immortalised and bask in the associated glory.

Despite the reference to the iconic, unofficial Australian anthem, you do not have to be Australian or profile an Australian woman to engage with this project. There is no requirement to use a Tarot deck if its not your thing. You are simply provided with an opportunity to redress the Matilda Effect by bringing the women’s stories out of the shadows in any way you deem appropriate

If you decide to engage I will link to your work and or feature your profiles on this site.

How will you fight the Matilda Effect and cast a spotlight on extraordinary women? Will you take the opportunity to devise your own dance and be featured here?

Waltzing with Matilda’s

  • The Dinner Party by Judy Chicago is an important icon of 1970s feminist art and a milestone in twentieth-century art. This installation comprises a massive ceremonial banquet, arranged on a triangular table with a total of thirty-nine place settings, each commemorating an important woman from history.
  • It is no secret that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women are placed well down on the scale of relevance and importance in Australia. They are invariably the last to be recognised. Perhaps this is because of their tireless pursuit of rights and betterment for their people. This may explain why individual achievements are rarely important and why they are often overlooked and don’t receive credit where credit is due. This Listening Circle provides fourteen places to seat influential First Nations Australian women. This offers an opportunity for deep listening and to redress this lack of acknowledgement.
  • Christine de Pizan (c.1364-1430), France’s first professional woman of letters, confronted the misogynist view that view that female nature is wholly given up to vice.head-on in her seminal work, the City of Ladies. 
  • Waltzing with a Tarot Deck – Heather Blakey, a devotee of the Tarot, waltzes with Tarot decks and matches cards with a life experience or situation faced by an Australian woman. She is also the creator of this site!
  • Follow in the Conversations footsteps. Perhaps, like an archeologist, you will undertake a dig and unearth previously hidden stories about women. You might be inspired to write up a profile and have it published here.
  • Honour Maternal Ancestors: We all have heroines in our own family. They are our mothers, grandmothers, aunts and cousins. They are the women who survived all life’s challenges against all odds to provide for the family or the role models who showed us that family and hard work go hand in hand. Add to the honour role here. Share either a Tarot Profile or do feel free to your own thing.
  • Pacific Matildas: Finding the women in the history of Pacific archaeology, responds to the Matilda Effect. The project aims to investigate the scientific lives of the first women who conducted archaeological work in Oceania from the late 19th to the mid-20th century, and document their hidden contributions to the development of Pacific archaeology, to ensure their stories and legacies become part of broader narratives in the history of science. 
  • Sheila: A Foundation for Women in Visual Art. Known simply as ‘Sheila’, this foundation, honouring the contribution of Lady Sheila Cruthers, was launched in May 2019 and aims “to overturn decades of gender bias by writing Australian women artists back into our art history and ensuring equality for today’s women artists.”
  • More Ways to Waltz with a A Matilda
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Ace of Cups – Zora Cross

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The suit of cups is the one which calls for deeper work, for challenging ourselves and showing up for the necessary work of looking into our own hearts and souls and confronting the genuine desires that live there. The Ace of Cups may call us to do some kind of spiritual work. Think of Mystics like Julian of Norwich or Theresa of Avila whose love affairs wth their god are legendary.

Read the best of Zora Cross’s poems.

When you draw the Ace of Cups you are presented with a seed that is waiting to grown and bloom. It is the card of feelings and emotions which may take the form of spiritual love. Of course spiritual love may take many forms and writing poetry is certainly one way for an artist to express that love.

Zora Cross had a voice which was impossible to ignore. In 1917 her book Songs of Love and Life caused a sensation when she opened her heart, let down any guard, was willing to be vulnerable and found a whole new level of self expression.

Here was a young woman who looked like a Sunday school teacher, celebrating sexual passion in a provocative series of love sonnets. She was hailed as a genius, and many expected her to endure as a household name alongside Shakespeare and Rossetti. But she didn’t! Her work fell into obscurity until Cathy Perkins recently performed a kind of CPR with her book The Shelf Life of Zora Cross.

Zora Cross had a remarkably productive writing life, and was part of Sydney’s bohemian literary scene between the two world wars. Apart from journalism and editing work, she produced five poetry books (one of them for children), six novels (two as serials in the Sydney Morning Herald), a book of essays on Australian literature, and a number of plays. Many of her poems appeared in newspapers and have never been collected, and she spent her last years working on an ambitious series of novels set in ancient Rome that were never published.

Draw upon the energy of the Ace of Cups

Is it the right time to take note of those unspoken feelings, open yourself to emotions and intuition and draw upon those inner waters that run so deep?

How would your life feel if you approached everything with a completely open heart and permitted yourself to be visibly vulnerable?

Double dare! Using all those senses you were gifted with, write an erotic poem expressing your intense love of a vegetable!

Cathy Perkins spent ten years researching The Shelf Life of Zora Cross. This is true passion! What can you imagine devoting as much time to?

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King of Pentacles – Nicola Forrest

Posted on by Heather Blakey

Here is a person who has achieved great things. Someone wealthy, whether that means materially rich, or simply very comfortable in their own life. This person has all that they need.

Implicit in this vision of success is a lot of hard work. The King of Pentacles is not someone who has simply happened upon great fortune, but who has worked for many years. They have been through the many trials of the suit of pentacles, the ups and the downs.

Andrew (Twiggy) Forrest overtaken by woman of now independent means.

Nicola Maurice grew up on a farm in “beautiful country” between Mudgee and Dubbo in central western NSW. The family raised sheep, Hereford cattle and grew wheat. The farm remains in family hands, run by one of her uncles.

In an interview with the Financial Review she shared that she had a great childhood and that her horse was her best friend. She recalled how they all worked on the farm and that this helped ground her in reality as she saw the confronting hardships in the life cycle.

In hindsight, she felt that she left the farm with a naive view that all Australians start out with an equal chance in life. However, life has taught her that many kids don’t get a fair chance and this has driven her passion for a nationwide boost in early childhood learning.
Read more of this article by Brad Thompso

In a television exclusive, Undercover Billionaire, Nicola Forrest steps out of the shadow of her at-times controversial husband, mining magnate Andrew “Twiggy” Forrest, to explain the very personal motivation behind the family’s philanthropy.

After their third child, Matilda, was stillborn Nicola Forrest felt driven to help other families, funding research and programs aimed at helping “all Australian children reach their full potential”.

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Knight of Pentacles – Isobel McBryde

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The Knight of Pentacles is not the high octane action kind of person. This individual is happy to patiently lay down the foundations for whatever plans are afoot and is prepared to patiently put one foot in front of the other and take their time. This Knight is prepared to invest laborious hours of hard work.

“Complete, systematic and objective”: Isabel McBryde and Richard Roberts recording rock art at Mount Yarrowick in 1966. Courtesy of Isabel McBryde featured in this Inside Story.

Archaeologist Isabel McBryde, who roamed the landscape of northern New South Wales in the 1960s in search of rock art and ceremonial grounds, scarred trees and surface scatters, middens and massacre sites, rock shelters and quarries. Known affectionately as the Mother of Archeology in Australia.

One of the most inspiring things about Isabel’s research is its social nature. She was interested in a holistic, peopled past and she combined archaeological and ethnographic research in a manner that no-one before her had done, but that is now a feature of the archaeological discipline in Australia. Isabel wasn’t just interested in academic pursuits, she was deeply committed to developing strong, mutually beneficial relationships with Aboriginal communities and was involved in developing fundamental legislative protection for cultural heritage within Australia and internationally, too.

Isabel’s pioneering approach to community archaeology is recorded in this wonderful reminiscence by Dr Mary-Jane Mountain, who writes about her involvement with the famous find of Mungo Lady, the earliest known anatomically modern human inhabitant of Australia, and the negotiation of the return of her remains.

“One of the distinctive things that Isabel did was to involve local communities and their historical societies in her work. This was time consuming work, but just so important.

Time consuming because her growing network of informants across New England expected responses. Important not just because of what she learned, but because she was educating key individuals and indeed entire communities in the importance of recognising and preserving Australia’s Aboriginal heritage”.

From Personal Reflection Belshaw Blog
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Knight of Wands – Aretha Brown

Posted on by Heather Blakey

This knight is all ego. Bold and brash they storm into the centre of things, ready to show the world how great they are. They have that kind of rakish attractiveness about them, something about how wild they seem.

This can be really fun! It’s good to have the Knight of Wands around, they’re fun at parties and know how to get the crowd going. It’s also good to be around this kind of confidence – the Knight of Wands isn’t afraid to take the first step and get things moving, inspiring others to come along.
Little Red Tarot

Aretha Brown was born in Melbourne on 11 November 2000. She is the daughter of rock frontman Paul Stewart, of the Painters and Dockers, and the contemporary Indigenous artist Donna Brown.

At just 23 Brown already has years of activism under her belt, and there’s plenty more to come. The queer artist advocates for young Indigenous people in her home country of Australia through community organising, public speaking, and her art practice.

She first hit national headlines at 16, for her speech at an Invasion Day rally (also known as Australia Day, a celebration of the nation’s founding) in Melbourne, saying: “too long have Aboriginal people been talked about, rather than talked to.” Aretha’s impassioned campaigning and fight to make indigenous history education mainstream led her to be elected the only woman – and youngest ever – Prime Minister of the National Indigenous Youth Parliament in 2017. Since then, her activism profile has grown steadily, with her speaking at the Sydney Opera House at the All About Women festival in 2019.

Her activism is only one part of the impact she’s making: Brown’s art is inspired by her home in Melbourne’s Western Suburbs and her journey as a queer teenager. Her first painting “Time is our our Side, You Mob” 2018 (shown) was selected for the 2019 Top Arts exhibition at the NGV.

Brown has appeared on ABC Radio Melbourne, the national ABC News Breakfast program and on NITV talking about her achievements in Canberra. In 2017, Brown appeared in the ABC TV documentary Advice to My Twelve Year Old Self, about Australia’s female leaders.

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Nine of Wands – Stella Young

Posted on by Heather Blakey

If the Nine of Wands appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person is resilient, guarded, and often represents perseverance despite challenges. They are recognized for their ability to endure and persist, often standing firm in the face of adversity. The Nine of Wands person is seen as a figure of strength and resilience, having overcome numerous obstacles and continuing to stand their ground.

Stella Young was born on the 24th of February 1982 in Stawell to Lynne and Greg Young. She was born with the genetic condition Osteogenesis Imperfecta, which she described simply as ‘dodgy bones’.

She began studying Journalism at Deakin University at the age of 17 and soon became an avid voice within the disability community. Referring to herself as a ‘crip’, Stella controversially challenged people in the way they perceived disability and what it means to live as a disabled person. She described ‘crip’ as a liberating word; a term that seemed to horrify people but that made her feel strong and powerful.

For eight seasons Stella hosted award winning disability culture program No Limits, a show dedicated to open and honest discussion about disability. No Limits won the Human Rights Commissioner Award for television for giving people with disabilities a voice in the media and creative control over their representation.

In 2010 Stella joined the ABC as the editor of Ramp Up, an online portal and discussion platform for disabled people. Ramp Up deconstructed society’s habit of turning disabled people into stereotypes.

The concept was further popularised in 2014 with the TEDxSydney talk “I’m not your inspiration, thank you very much.”

Stella made her solo debut at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival in 2014 with her show ‘Tales from the Crip’, a performance that won her Best Newcomer. Stella was able to use comedy to tell witty anecdotes about her experiences as a disabled woman and to evoke social change.

In addition to her writing and comedy, Stella was a member of the Victorian Disability Advisory Council, the Youth Disability Advocacy Service and Women with Disabilities Victoria.

Prior to her death, Stella wrote of how she wished to be remembered. “I am not a snowflake. I am not a sweet, infantilising symbol of fragility and life. I am a strong, fierce, flawed adult woman. I plan to remain that way, in life and in death.”

Stella’s legacy continues to challenge, educate and strengthen society and its perception of disability today.

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Two of Wands – Shirley Randell

Posted on by Heather Blakey

If the Two of Wands appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person is at a crossroads, making plans and considering options for the future. They are characterized by a sense of anticipation and potential, as they weigh different paths and possibilities. This individual is often in a phase of life where significant choices are being made, shaping the trajectory of their future.

The Two of Wands reminds us that when we want to make progress in life and relationships, we have to take that first step into the unknown. We don’t get what we want by just thinking about it and keeping it as an idea in our heads.

At 55, when Shirley Randell was made redundant from a local government position, she might have looked for other roles in the public service. Instead she considered overseas positions and into her seventies, having worked all over the world for a few decades, was engaged in development work in Bangladesh.

In 2019 Shirley Randell is a Member of the Order of Australia, having received the Officer of the Order (AO) award in 2010 for her services to international relations through education, public sector, institutional reform and economic empowerment of women in Australia, the Pacific, Asia and Africa.

She is a member of many important boards and committees including the Australian Government Women’s Alliance – Economic Security for Women and the indigo foundation. An Ambassador of Dignity Ltd, the Australian Centre for Leadership for Women, Women’s International Cricket League/FairBreak and The International Alliance for Women, Shirley Randell is also a member of the Independent Scholars Association of Australia Council, Graduate Women International Projects Committee, and sits on the several editorial boards including the BioMedical-Central Women’s Health Journal.

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Ace of Pentacles – Lillian Wightman

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The Aces in the tarot are all indicative of new beginnings. When you draw any of them, it means that you are at a point in your life where a new cycle is beginning – you are about to start afresh. Because the suit of pentacles is primarily concerned with all things material (not just financial, but also with the sensual), this reset could manifest itself as a new career, the undertaking of a new venture, or the start of putting more care into your health. Wherever this beginning takes place, the Ace of Pentacles assures that what is to come will bring great abundance and opportunity. 

Ms Wightman was all about fashion. She had been described alternatively as the dowager empress of Collins Street, Melbourne’s first lady of couture, even Luxury Lil. It has been said that she had dressed more society ladies and debutante daughters than any other couturier in Melbourne.

In 1918 while trying on a bridesmaid’s dress at the exclusive Melbourne fashion boutique of G. H. V. Thomas, Lillian Wightman so impressed the proprietor with her suggested redesign of the dress that he offered her a job as a salesgirl. She learned how to manage an atelier, to engage the customers, and to recognise quality.

In 1922, in her twenties, Wightman undertook an exciting new venture. She borrowed one hundred pounds from her father and opened her own salon in Howey Place. It was situated in a series of laneways in the fashionable city block bounded by Elizabeth, Collins, Bourke, and Swanston streets, where society ladies would come to ‘do the block’—to shop, lunch, and be seen. She named her salon ‘Le Louvre’ as she believed Paris to be the heart and soul of fashion, sophistication, and style.

The rest is history! From this seed grew an icon! Le Louvre signified everything Australia wasn’t. With polished copper framing its wide windows, the fashion house came to represent not just a very exclusive form of retail therapy, but the Melbourne establishment itself. Tulle draped across the windows veiled offerings from the hoi polloi. It was old-money, high-class and very exclusive.  It was in Wightman’s realm that Melbourne’s version of the “carriage trade” – many of them daughters and wives of wealthy Western District farmers – promenaded in their finery, an exercise known as “doing the Block”. Those people would come for the afternoon and they would buy what they called their trousseau for the season – six or eight outfits and hats. They would all sit here on the sofa. They would have cups of tea or if they needed something a little stronger, they would get that.

‘Buying 74 Collins Street wasn’t a big step,’ said Wightman. ‘I didn’t even think about it. It was an old doctor’s home and I pulled a lot of the guts out of it. The lane is cobble-stoned, and the fitting room was the kitchen, it still has the hearth stone in it. Above it was the loft where they threw down the hay for the doctor’s horse. It is one of the oldest remaining buildings in Melbourne made of handmade bricks.’ . . . In the 11 years in Howey Place I had built up a business which had fantastic snob value, always has had. . . . You’ve got to aim high to rise. I wanted to go to the top end of Collins Street and own my own business. . . .” (from Farmar Families.) 

Wightman maintained her modus operandi: private clients, including Nellie Melba and Vivien Leigh, appointments preferred, discretion guaranteed. NGV features a collection of some of her garments.

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Keelan Mailman – Two of Pentacles

Posted on by Heather Blakey

This card which depicts a figure juggling is familiar to many people around the world. For so many, especially women, life is literally a juggling and balancing act. It is a challenge to balance duties, time constraints and the need to provide basic needs. This card speaks of seemingly mundane aspects of daily life such as raising a family, going to work, cooking, going to school and so the list goes on.

In her unflinching autobiography, the Power of Bones, the warmth of Keelen’s personality, her determination and her irresistible humour shine through. Her capacity to balance and juggle so many duties is nothing short of extraordinary.

It looked bleak and predictable for little Keelen Mailman. She had an alcoholic mother, and absent father, faced the horrors of regular sexual, physical assault and the casual racism in a small outback town in the sixties.

But somehow, despite the pain and deprivation, the lost education, she managed to absorb her mother’s lessons: her Bidjara language and culture, her obligations to Country, and her loyalty to her family.

So it was no surprise to some that a girl who could hide for a year in her own home to keep her family together, run as fast as Raylene Boyle and catch porcupine and goanna, would one day make history.

At just 30, and a single mother, Keelen became the first Aboriginal woman to run a commercial cattle station when she took over Mt Tabor, two hours from Augathella on the black soil plains of western Queensland. This cattle station is in the heartland of Bidjara country, the place her mother and grandparents and great-grandparents had camped on and cared for, and where their ancestors left their marks on caves and rock walls more than 10,000 years ago.

For 17 years Keelen Mailman lived and worked Mount Tabor, a cattle station subject to Native Title, mending and building fences, putting out salt licks for the cattle, protecting sacred sites, teaching the next generation and caring for family.

She was also instrumental in a 7 year struggle to reclaim Aborigine bones from a museum to return the bones to the land. Keelen is an experienced advocate for her people, both the living and the dead.

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Edna Walling – Three of Pentacles

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The Three of Pentacles is the card of the master craftsperson. It conjures images of someone who is highly skilled in their area of expertise. The individual has achieved the highest level of knowledge and ability in their chosen field. Unlike the Swords which speak of intellectual knowing this card is closely connected with the arts.

Edna Walling is arguably Australia’s best-known and most influential garden designer. In gardening and landscape design circles, Walling is considered royalty.

Walling began her career in 1919 after graduating from Burnley Horticultural College. She sought to achieve a unity between house and garden, and was influenced by Italian and Spanish gardens in her use of pergolas, walls, steps and paths.

Walling designed and constructed many well-known private gardens in Australia in the mid-20th century, for clients such as Dame Nellie Melba, Dame Elisabeth Murdoch and Sir Frank Packer.

A prolific garden designer, writer, photographer, water colourist and passionate conservationist, Walling introduced Australians to a different way of gardening – one where perennials and hardy shrubs replaced bedding annuals, beautifully proportioned stone walls, pergolas and stairs provided architectural framework, and plants such as forget-me-nots and foxgloves were encouraged to self seed. Her gardens became intimate and tranquil spaces for their owners.

Not only did she pioneer the use of native plants and initiate her own urban development while still in her mid 20s, throughout her life Walling also wrote prolifically on gardening for magazines and books. Her designs, both formal and informal, can be seen in gardens throughout southern Australia, many of which were early examples of sustainable gardens, favouring drought hardy native plants over introduced species.

Four of Walling’s books were published in her lifetime and a fifth posthumously in 1984. She contributed hundreds of articles to The Australian Home Beautiful from 1925 to 1947 and left several unpublished manuscripts, now held in the Library’s manuscript collection. One of these, ‘The happiest days of my life’, is a personal account of the building of her beach house above the Great Ocean Road near Lorne.

Leaving a Legacy

Despite the fact that Walling was a fabulous self-publicist and a very unusual woman in her time, her private life has remained a mystery.Actress and playwright Sara Hardy was compelled to find out what made Edna tick when she was cast as Miss Walling in a play in 1989. Keen to research her character, she discovered that the available material was all about the gardens. And so began a journey of discovery. Hardy has unearthed amazing primary sources: letters, photographs, stories told to her by Edna’s niece, and has been wholeheartedly supported in her quest by the two main documenters of the gardens, Peter Watts and Trisha Dixon.

Walling leaves a rich legacy! Today, Edna Walling’s landscaping legacy continues to influence contemporary designers.

What would the title of a book about you be? What would you like your legacy to be?

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Six of Swords – Kay Cottee

Posted on by Heather Blakey

Journeys, travel, guidance, searching, quests, treasure, death, transition, movement

Australian Kay Cottee sailed her 11.2-metre yacht Blackmores First Lady out of Sydney Harbour hoping to be the first woman to circumnavigate the world alone, without stopping, without assistance, by way of both hemispheres and the five southernmost capes.

Over the next 189 days, she experienced the incredible beauty, discomfort and terror of solo sailing in the Southern Ocean. Her yacht was knocked down several times, including once off the southern coast of Africa in 100-knot winds and 20-metre seas. Washed overboard, she was saved by two safety lines.


“Kay Cottee AO inspired generations of female sailors when she became the first woman to sail unassisted, non-stop around the globe via both hemispheres,” said the Selection Panel in announcing her induction. “To this day, Cottee remains an inspiration to people of all generations across the globe.”

On 5 June 1988, after 189 days at sea, Cottee returned victorious: the first woman to achieve this feat (and the fastest woman around the world). She was greeted by more than 100,000 well-wishers as she sailed into Sydney Harbour. She had sailed 22,100 nautical miles at an average speed of 117 nautical miles per day (the fastest by a woman) and set seven world records. Kay was named the 1988 Australian of the Year and made an Officer of the Order of Australia.

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Geraldine Doogue – Page of Swords

Posted on by Heather Blakey
Geraldine Doogue is one of Australia’s most accomplished and versatile journalists, excelling in print, radio and television. At the ABC and Channel Ten, she presented and reported for national news and current affairs television programs. On ABC radio, as host of Life Matters and then Compass for 30 years, her soothing voice and sharp mind brought relevance and meaning to the challenging subjects of faith, spirituality, religion and ethics while never adopting a preaching approach.

As with all pages, this is a card of curiosity. The Page of Swords is an explorer of the mind, of thoughts, ideas, plans. This is a person who will climb a mountain, for the sake of seeing the view. They want to know where they are – but more importantly, they want to know why.

The Page of Swords seeks answers. They may be a student, particularly a academic learner, or someone studying books or words. Remember that swords are the suit of communication. This is also the suit of logic, and this page likes to figure out what is going on.

Ever hungry for new perspectives, the Page talks to others, asking questions, gathering a range of views. They want to hear it all. As a ‘child’, a degree of naivety may be present here, as the Page of Swords is like a sponge soaking up everything around them, perhaps neglecting to work out what their own take on things is.
Source: Little Red Tarot

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King of Swords – Vida Goldstein

Posted on by Heather Blakey

Structure, routine, intelligent, rational, logical, power, authority, strength, manners, conversation, discerning, detached, cool, honesty, integrity, ethics, morals, clinical, stern, methodical, self-discipline, head over heart, use your head, military, law enforcement, legal matters, judge

Goldstein was a speaker, writer and campaigner. Throughout the war she was an ardent pacifist, became chairman of the Peace Alliance and formed the Women’s Peace Army. She recruited Adela Pankhurst, recently arrived from England as an organiser.


Throughout the 19th century and into the early 20th century, most men – and some women – believed that a woman’s place was in the home, looking after her husband and children. The idea of women having a political voice was laughable, and furthermore, the concept of a female politician was unheard of.

One of the leading advocates for women’s rights in Victoria was Portland, Victoria-born suffragist Vida Goldstein. Throughout the late 1800s and early 1900s, Goldstein campaigned strongly for women’s equality, including universal suffrage and equal pay for equal work.

When Goldstein began her career in the 1870s women had no right to buy property, so Vida lobbied for a change to that law. She also ran a co-ed primary school, founded the monthly publication Women’s Sphere, launched the weekly publication The Women’s Voter, and was a founding member of the National Council of Women.

Here, we meet a person who is steadfastly confident in their beliefs. A profoundly fair person, to the point that there is no space for grey areas between the black and the white, the King of Swords lays down the law.

In 1903 Goldstein became the first woman in the British Empire to stand for election in a national parliament. She tried five times over 14 years to be elected to the Senate, with her last attempt at a seat in the House of Representatives in 1917. But while voting numbers showed her increasing popularity, she was never elected to office.

The mid-1900s saw some minor landmarks for women’s political rights. However, it was not until after 1980, when Susan Ryan became the first woman cabinet minister, that the federal Sex Discrimination Act 1984 was passed.

The Act made it illegal to discriminate against anyone based on their gender, marital status or family responsibilities. It was a huge step for Australia’s women’s rights movement.

Vida died from cancer in 1949, so she wasn’t able to see the result of her efforts, but her contribution to women’s political rights in Victoria remains as important today as it was in the early 20th century.

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Five of Swords – Juanita Nielsen

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The Five of Swords Tarot card comes with a warning as it can signify hostility, aggression, intimidation and violence and as such it can represent situations we would hope to never encounter in our lives such as crime, theft, bullying, abuse, assault, rape, murder. 

Juanita Nielsen, a member of a prominent Sydney family, was a passionate activist and journalist. She lived in a terrace house in Victoria Street, Kings Cross, Sydney, and her father bought her a local newspaper called ‘Now’ which she published from her home.

There are some battles which put our lives at stake and taking on F.W. Theeman was one of them. Juanita conducted a vigorous editorial campaign in support of the ‘green ban’ movement against the redevelopment of Victoria Street by Theeman’s real-estate company, Victoria Point Pty Ltd. With her neighbour and trade-union activist Jack (‘Mick’) Fowler, she played a prominent role in mobilising residents against the demolition of Victoria Street’s historic terraces and the eviction of their tenants.

On 4 July 1975 after visiting the Carousel (previously Les Girls)—a transvestite nightclub and underworld haunt at Kings Cross—on advertising business vanished and was never seen again. During initial investigations, police uncovered information relating to a conspiracy to kidnap Ms Nielsen on Monday 30 June 1975 – four days prior to her last known sighting.

The “Five of Swords” in Tarot typically represents conflict, defeat, and betrayal. It can indicate a situation where someone has come out on top at the expense of others, often through manipulation or deceit. This card encourages reflection on whether the victory is worth the cost and advises against seeking success at the expense of others.

Attempts to find her or her corpse have proved fruitless and no one was ever charged with her murder. Despite public outcry, the mystery remains a major case in the annals of unsolved Australian crimes and has been the subject of podcasts and television programs. There is a significant reward for information that will finally provide some closure, especially for extended family.

The Five of Swords represents a conflict or tension between individuals, which, if not resolved, will be a no-win scenario for everyone involved. This card symbolizes loss, betrayal, weakness, and the realization of limitations, which often stems from the desire always to come first, which is the root cause of the conflict, to begin with.

Much of Victoria Street was saved, but Juanita paid the ultimate price. She is remembered as a fierce advocate of community values and fighter against corruption. Her small terrace house at 202 Victoria Street is now heritage listed.

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Eight of Wands – Clarice Beckett

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The message is loud and clear. When the Eight of Wands appears in a tarot reading, it provides a cosmic signal from the universe that everything is about to get moving and FAST! After years lying in a barn in obscurity word of Clarice Beckett’s outstanding art work is gaining momentum and a life of its own.

The Eight of Wands tarot card holds a powerful message of swift action, rapid progression, and forward momentum. It urges us to seize opportunities and anticipate swift outcomes. Like rockets soaring through the sky, our desires are quickly moving from the realm of imagination to the realm of tangible existence.

Clarice Beckett was born in 1887 in Casterton in regional Victoria. Today she is recognised as one of Australia’s most important painters of the interwar period, yet her contribution was almost completely lost to art history. Many of Beckett’s paintings were either destroyed or damaged after her premature death in 1935 from pneumonia which she contracted while painting in the rain near her seaside home at Beaumaris, Melbourne.

“To give a sincere and truthful representation of a portion of the beauty of Nature, and to show the charm of light and shade, which I try to give forth in correct tones so as to give as nearly as possible an exact illusion of reality

Clarice Beckett, 1923

Beckett depicted everyday views of her local environment including transient subjects such as moving cars, trams, lone figures, waves and shadows. Her misty paintings of modern Melbourne in the 1920s and 1930s captured the outdoors, including sea and beachscapes, and suburban street scenes, that often recorded the shifting effects of light– either in the quiet, early morning or in the stillness of the evening.

Her paintings of the local environment possess a sense of timelessness. No prior knowledge is required to appreciate Beckett’s paintings, anyone who has engaged with the outside world can relate to and experience a connection to these subtle and silent paintings of nature.

Australian artist Clarice Beckett received very little recognition during her lifetime and re-emerged from obscurity when thousands of her works were discovered in country Victoria. She is now considered one of Australia’s leading female artists of the early twentieth century.

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The reputation of this modernist painter has been successfully revived thanks largely to the lifelong work of art historian Dr Rosalind Hollindrake. But a biographer’s work is never done. Now aged 86 and the only person to interview those who knew Beckett, Rosalind is still uncovering things about the elusive, brilliant artist, lauded as the greatest female Australian artist we ever knew.

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Six of Pentacles – Ruby Hunter

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generosity, charity, community, material help, support, sharing, giving and receiving, gratitude

From The Tarot of the Abyss

It is no news to those who love Tarot that the cards can help us talk about the good, the bad and the ugly things that we all face on this planet. These images can help us to find the words to describe how we are feeling and they also have the capacity to draw out long buried memories.

The Five and Six of Pentacles can describe the almost cliche rags to riches story and equally can help us celebrate triumph in the face of adversity.

Ruby Hunter (1955-2010), singer/songwriter, was a Ngarrindjeri/ Kukatha/ Pitjantjatjara woman from South Australia. At the age of eight she and her four siblings and herself were taken from their family. She was placed in the Seaforth Children’s Home. Ruby remembered that the Government Authorities simply arrived one day in a big car, promising their grandmother that they were taking the children to the circus. At the time they were living with their grandmother on the Coorong at Meningie.

Ruby believed that the achievement of which she was most proud was keeping her family – Roach, their two children and three foster children – together as a stable unit.

While homeless Ruby met Archie Roach, also a member of the Stolen Generations, who had drifted to Adelaide from Mildura across the Victorian border. They met at a Salvation Army drop in centre as they were both living on the street. Forming a unique friendship during their time together on the streets of Adelaide, they formed an enduring bond that would last for the rest of Ruby’s life. They were inseparable partners.

During her life Ruby worked tirelessly to support and encourage young Aboriginal people, running an open house for teenagers. Ruby and Archie together cared for 14 children in a family house group home run by the Victorian Aboriginal Child Care Agency. Later they made their own home a welcoming haven for homeless and disadvantaged young people.

Ruby was also a strong advocate against domestic violence, and a voice for the stolen generations, and between them Ruby and Archie raised many foster children with their own two boys. Ruby believed that the achievement of which she was most proud was keeping her family – Roach, their two children and three foster children – together as a stable unit. She died of a heart attack at the age of 55.

Archie, unlike those who claimed work that had been written by their women, proudly tells the story of how his wife, Ruby, wrote Down City Streets.

Philanthropic Energy

Caroline Chisholm

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Five of Swords – Professor Lyndall Ryan

Posted on by Heather Blakey

There is little positive to say about the five of swords, especially at this time in history as we witness the horrors in active war zones. There is even less that is positive if you lay Barbara Walker’s Five of Swords alongside the Ten of Swords. It’s about a battle in which there actually are no winners – by the time someone had triumphed, it was over anyway. There may ‘officially’ be winner and a loser… but from over here it doesn’t look like anyone is triumphant. And then there are the ongoing ripple effects of what has been done.

During their school years the majority of Australian students are not taught about the Indigenous massacres on Australian soil or are able to gain an understanding of what the stolen generation is all about. Even if they do watch ‘Rabbit Proof Fence’ or hear about these horrors. there are disturbing truths about the aftermath of all these actions that need to be acknowledged. It takes courage to look dispassionately at this stuff and understand the trails of trauma that have shaped so many lives.

The daughter of Edna Minna Ryan (1904–1997) a committed feminist, communist and trade unionist, Emeritus Professor Lyndall Ryan believes that she was bestowed with a responsibility to present available facts and figures about indigenous massacres in Australia. It is her wish to present material in such a way that helps people understand and come to terms with the events of the past.

For the past eight years this 79-year-old and her research team have upheld an unwavering commitment to uncover and confirm the truth about Australia’s early colonial history.

It’s been an endeavour that has unearthed confronting and deeply disturbing details of the colonial frontier massacres of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people.

The image of the 5 of Swords is usually depicted with a person who has captured the swords of his adversaries who are leaving, rejected and lost. There are storm clouds in the background. This card shows that you might be the conqueror or the conquered. But neither position has actually won. This battle was pointless, it was unfair and it was full of cowardliness. Basically, this is not one of the higher points of life.

The research project’s fourth and final stage’s recently released findings now estimate more than 10,000 Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people’s lives were lost during at least 414 massacres committed during the period 1788 to 1930.

Evidence also shows around half the frontier massacres were carried out by colonial officials, such as police and soldiers, either solely, or in conjunction with settlers and/or their employees.

And unexpectedly, the attacks during the spread of pastoral settlement in Australia did not decrease as the decades passed; they intensified.  More massacres occurred in the period 1860 to 1930 than in the earlier period of 1788 to 1860.

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Three of Wands – Vivian Bullwinkle

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The Three of Wands holds the power to propel us forward, after a bad experience, on our journey towards growth and expansion.

Vivian Bullwinkel, sole survivor of the 1942 Banka Island massacre, was born on 18 December 1915 at Kapunda, South Australia. She trained as a nurse and midwife at Broken Hill, New South Wales, and began her nursing career in Hamilton, Victoria, before moving to the Jessie McPherson Hospital in Melbourne in 1940.

Bullwinkles story is one of Australia’s most well-known stories of World War 2. She became known as a symbol of strength for nursing. Aside from her survival at Banka Island she and her companions, who were prisoners of war during World War II, refused the position of victim and went on to contribute much to the world after their ordeal.

The Three of Wands may signal the possibility for a major expansion. Whether this be in a new direction or taking over the world, you can begin plotting your next move.  Don’t be thinking small – this card encourages big, epic visions.  The Three of Wands also can suggest an opportunity on the horizon.  That ship you were waiting on is in view. 

When Vivian Bullwinkel returned home she devoted the decades after the war to nursing and honouring those who did not survive Bangka Island. She and fellow POW survivor Betty Jeffrey raised funds for a memorial. The Nurses Memorial Centre, a ‘living memorial’ to Australian nurses who had died in war, opened in Melbourne in 1949. Betty was its first administrator.

Vivian rose to become Matron of the Queen’s Memorial Infectious Diseases Hospital, in Melbourne, served on the Council of the Australian War Memorial and as president of the Australian College of Nursing. Honours earned include the Florence Nightingale Medal, an MBE and the AM.

Bullwinkle embodied important elements of resilience and it is our duty to convey to future generations so that they may be inspired to rise above adversity, foster connection with like-minded others, use adaptive coping mechanisms and soft power, be gentle yet persistent in their resistance practices, and most of all to do good work throughout their lives.

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Knight of Swords – Dorothy Drain

Posted on by Heather Blakey

The Knight of Swords in tarot represents a person who is intelligent, quick-witted, and decisive. They are often seen as being a bit of a maverick, the warrior, as they are not afraid to go against the grain or challenge the status quo. They are also very independent and resourceful, and they are always up for a new challenge.

Here are some of the key characteristics of the Knight of Swords as a person:

  • Intelligence: The Knight of Swords is a very intelligent person. They have a quick mind and they are able to see the big picture. They are also very good at problem-solving and they are always coming up with new ideas.
  • Decisiveness: The Knight of Swords is a very decisive person. They are not afraid to make decisions, even if they are difficult ones. They are also very good at following through on their decisions.
  • Independence: The Knight of Swords is a very independent person. They do not like to be told what to do, and they prefer to forge their own path. They are also very resourceful and they are able to find solutions to problems on their own.
  • Adventurous: The Knight of Swords is an adventurous person. They are always up for a new challenge and they are not afraid to take risks. They are also very curious and they are always learning new things

The Knight of Swords might manifest in a person’s life as lawyer who is passionate about justice, a journalist who is always digging for the truth, an entrepreneur who is always starting new businesses, a soldier who is brave and courageous or a scientist asking question.

Journalist Dorothy Drain was born in Mount Morgan, Queensland, in 1909. A pioneer journalist in her field who wrote from the heart. Dorothy travelled overseas and saw first-hand the devastation of war in places like Hiroshima. She reported from Japan, Malaya, Korea and Vietnam and is remembered as one of Australia’s most outstanding journalists who helped pave the way for the Australian women journalists, editors, and war correspondents of today.

Dorothy Drain was certainly someone to shake things up a little, make a controversial statement or speak an important and genuine truth.

Alternative Perspectives – Who Would You Choose?

The Knight of Swords tarot card denotes a communicative, strong-minded, and at times opinionated person who is very action-oriented and thrives on change.

Given that there are literally thousands of artists identifying individuals to associate with a card this is a subjective process.

In the Haindl Tarot, Haindl presents Osiris as the Knight of Swords. Osiris was the god and chief judge of the underworld but he was also the god of vegetation. The annual Nile flood and was closely associated with death, resurrection and fertility. The ancient Egyptians believed him to be a dead king, a former ruler who had been miraculously restored to life after being murdered by his brother Seth. For this reason he came to symbolise the hope for eternal life that every Egyptian held.

Who springs to mind when you see the Knight of Swords? Perhaps write a portraiture or develop a character with Knight of Swords qualities.